5 Ways to Meet Someone Special
To me, having a boyfriend has never been a priority. I never needed someone hanging around me all the time, but I love meeting people. I love falling in love. It’s always worth the risk. Here are the ways I’ve found to meet someone. Hopefully, someone you’ll at least remember forever. Some of these are from personal experiences, and some are just insights. If you have anything to add or want to share a story, please tell me about it in the comments!
In a bar
Let’s face it. Mr. Right is not going to knock down your door at 10pm on a Saturday. I hope not. That’s creepy. Don’t know if he’s good for you. I’m not saying you have to party or drink socially to meet people—there are certainly other ways, but this is one. You just need to know what to look for, and be a little cautious. There are several ways to approach someone, and I highly recommend watching Matthew Hussey for some tips. However, once you get to chatting try not to hangout with them all night. Exchange numbers, and move on before the conversation gets stale. If it was right, they’ll text you— or call, if they’re a badass.
Activities
Pick up some hobbies that you’re interested in trying or already enjoy. Bowling. Trivia night. Salsa dancing. Sporting events. You name it. Especially if this event is a weekly thing, it gives you time to flirt, and it allows for a narrative to build. Things can develop so much more naturally this way. If you don’t meet someone, at least you’re doing something you enjoy with your time.
Mutual Friends
Did someone invite you to a party, and you said no because you didn’t know everyone that was gonna be there? That’s a missed opportunity. Mutual friends is one of the best ways to meet someone. Because someone you know, knows this person, there is a much lower risk of them being a serial killer. Just saying. That being said, don’t ask your friends to play matchmaker. You’re an adult, set ups are almost always awkward, and I’ve never seen them work out. Plus, it’s annoying. If your friend thought of it first, maybe. Otherwise, it can make them feel used.
The apps
Dating apps can be tricky, but they can certainly work. You just need a no-nonsense mindset when it comes to them. Play the elimination game. If someone says something that is a major turnoff, then ghost. If someone shows you a red flag, unmatch with them. Also, once you get their number, text them for a while before you agree to a date. You don’t want to waste your time on someone you literally have nothing in common with. Most likely, you can figure out if they are worth meeting in person via a week of solid communication over text or the phone.
DON’T meet them at work
I mean unless you’re Jim and Pam, which you’re probably not, then cool it. Why on earth someone would want romance right in their professional sphere is beyond me. Coworker romances pose a human resource issue for a reason. You’ll never be able to escape it if it doesn’t work, and honestly, I believe coworker romances happen because it’s easy. YIKES...did I say that? Oops.
